Thomas P May

1933 - 2021

Bellevue, Washington


Thomas P May passed away early last week surrounded by his family and his  wife Kathleen. He was 87. Tom grew up in Wisconsin with brothers: S. John (CathyLynn), James P. (Carol) and Michael (deceased) and his sisters: Elizabeth, Mary, Kathleen, and Jane. He had a life long love of anything Ireland. At Notre Dame Glee Club, he sang often continued with is his high school quartet where continued to sing long after graduation. He settled in Washington after serving in the Army. He had a passion for waterskiing that continued well after retirement from Boeing. While at Boeing he obtained his Masters at UW, joined the Boeing Golf League, and moved to Mercer Island raising a family. He was an active member of St. Monica’s, volunteering at church, choir, supporting and organizing the auction. He had a passion volunteering his time to support the Nortre Dame Alumuni Club, United Way,  Friends of the Needy and many other efforts.  In retirement he enjoyed spending time with friends and family sharing meals and finding wines to try.  His greatest joy was his faith and family. He was blessed with two grandchildren; Wyatt and Jared. He is survived by his wife Kathleen and  their five children: Sue (Jeff), Jane, James (Kathie), Thomas (Carrie), Theresa, (Steve).  After Tom was diagnosed with cancer he was able to travel to Wisconsin and see his brothers and sisters, it was one of his greatest joys. The Celebration of life will be at Sacred Heart Church in Bellevue, and Gaffney Funeral Home, Tacoma Washington. Due to COVID restrictions this will be a private event. In lieu of flowers please donate to your favorite Food Bank.

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Mary Margaret Gengozian

April 15, 2021 8:52 AM

To Brother Tom:  "When Irish Eyes Are Smilin' Sure They Steel Your Heart Away...."  Love you Big Brother, Bits❤️

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April 15, 2021 8:12 AM

With love from your brothers and sisters: Cis Triggiano, Bits Gengozian, John & Cathy-Lynn May, Jim & Carol May, Casey Niesen, and Jane Rocque

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Steve & Patty Hopps

April 13, 2021 1:01 PM

Patty and I are saddened to read about Tom's passing.  Our condolences to Kathy and all the May family.  Tom will be in our prayers.  So many fond memories of the 85th Street neighborhood, it was such a great place for us to raise Sarah and have the St. Monica connection.  The May's were a big part of both those things.  Best wishes to all the May's.

George Hoffman

April 11, 2021 9:02 PM

Hello Tom May Family--I am a long time retired Boeing Engineering Manger who new Tom very well during my last couple of years at Boeing, circa 1989-1990..  He and I used to discuss at length the budgetary problems I was having on my program at the time and he helped me immensely. 

It turned out that one of my wife's first cousins. (Bob Mallon) went to Notre Dame the same time Tom did, so we  had a common denominator there.  We got to talking Notre Dame football many times as I am a fervent Notre Dam Fan.  Well, in 1989, if I remember correctly, Notre Dame was playing Michigan State at South Bend and Tom was not planning to go to that game so  he  offered his tickets to me.  That was a great gesture so we went to the game and Notre Dame won easily.  We had a great time.

Another note  of interest to me is that the Gaffney funeral home is still around.  Both of my parents were buried through Gaffney's.  Ted Gaffney was the proprietor those years, at least when my dad died in 1949.

In closing, although Tom and I did not really socialize,  I wish to express to the May family my sincere condolences on the  loss of a really wonderful man  as I knew him at Boeing.  My best wishes to you all.

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